Wisdom arrives more easily when I’m surrounded by silence. Early morning provides excellent opportunities for contemplation. A cup of coffee, a view of the rising sun, and reflections on times past are excellent components for soul searching. While such introspection is awkward for some, I enjoy the mental journey.
As a faithful fan of self-help articles and books, I’m no slouch in the create your own journal endeavors often recommended to encourage self-improvement. Many folks have silently answered the “what I know now that I wish I knew then” statement. Discovering the better choice is easier when looking back at a situation. Sometimes the right words or actions are glaringly clear only after some time has elapsed.
Libraries and bookstores carry a variety of “Life’s Little Instruction Books” on varying themes. Oprah writes a monthly column about what she knows for sure, and Dr. Phil is posed with answers for complicated questions. Sometimes solutions reside in our own hearts if we take time to consider the options.
An early morning walk along the Riverfront afforded me the following considerations. My credentials are quite simple, an advanced degree in personal experience. Learning from others can be more comfortable then having to make all the mistakes yourself. It’s this writer’s hope that others can benefit from the “things I’ve learned along the way.”
Accept the fact that some situations and options negate others or at the least, make them more difficult. If you choose to be a workaholic, you may climb the corporate ladder quickly, but you’ll miss considerable family life and fun along the way. If perfection in every detail is your primary goal, you’ll likely find yourself frustrated by myriad imperfections in life.
Self-knowledge is essential. Determine what’s important to you and strive to achieve it. Sounds obvious but some never take the time to figure out their goals. Whatever you wish to achieve – financial security, family togetherness, a dream home in the woods, plan accordingly and realize dreams don’t happen immediately. They arrive in increments, usually after careful consideration and considerable work.
Change is absolutely inevitable. Loved ones, society or circumstances sometimes force the changes. There are few absolutes, but decide what yours are and then learn to be flexible with the rest. Just because something is new and different doesn’t mean it’s better but advertising gurus want you to believe otherwise. And just because something has always been done a certain way doesn’t mean there isn’t another way. Learn to adapt.
Embrace what you believe, and make your beliefs a source of inspiration for enhancing your spiritual journey and for helping others. Don’t let your beliefs be a reason to be judgmental or condemning of others. Know what you believe and why.
Be grateful. Instead of counting all that’s lacking in your life, focus on all the positives.
It’s foolish not to plan for the future, but remember to savor the present.
Save your opinions until you’re asked for them. You may be a very wise person with many insights, but wait until you’re asked before sharing your wisdom.
Reduce your expectations which is far different from settling. Do not assume others will respond as you would.
Much knowledge can be acquired on life’s paths. Hopefully it continues growing as we should never quit learning. Or searching.